Far too late, I realized today, that I was not the best example to my children. They are all adults and between my three eldest sons there are twelve grandchildren. I have a second opportunity with the next generation. Since I only see any of them occasionally I will have to be quite intentional.
I don’t really know exactly how I started on this path. It was not a New Year’s resolution, but sometime in January I decided this was the year to try new things. This morning I wrote a note in a birthday card to a great niece wishing her fun and encouraging her to try new things. As I did this, the thought of my own failure hit me. I always encouraged my children to be brave and try new foods. But they did not see me trying new foods. I ate a far greater variety of foods than any of them did, but I was always asking them to not let appearances or even scent make a decision for them. As chief cook, I prepared food that I liked. Well, I recently dared to eat cottage cheese and blue cheese. In my mind they are both quite scary looking. I was a hypocrite. I asked them to do what I was not willing to do.
I have been trying new things, mostly new foods. In addition to the above mentioned cheeses, so far this year, I have tried Belgium endive, leeks, spaghetti squash, collard greens, fried okra, kombucha tea, and coffee. I liked the coffee, squash, endive, and fried okra. I plan to give the cottage cheese a second chance as I discovered my container was far past its expiration date. With food tasting, one only has to be brave very briefly. Water washes away most tastes.
A willingness to try new things has extended to other areas. I am trying yoga in the privacy of my home thanks to you tube. This would be far too embarrassing to do in a pubic setting. I think children might also benefit from trying something new in a private setting and not before an audience, even an audience of friends or family.
I have also been experimenting with new hairstyles. I have long hair and I think I can learn to do much more with it than I do. Here, too, I have gone to you tube for instructions. Doing something new takes practice. The first time is often messy. First attempts at learning new skills can turn out badly and that is okay. A friend who taught me how to knit gave me instructions for “easy” bootie slippers. When completed, one slipper was at least 3 inches longer than the other. Oops. I have had much greater success with crocheting, but even that takes practice.
This “new things” quest has got me thinking about other areas to explore. Perhaps I should try a new genre of music, movies, or books. I might make a very enjoyable discovery. This summer I hope to try zip lining.
I have always considered myself a brave and adventurous type, but my spirit of adventure was limited. This is my year to expand my horizons. What new foods or things are you willing to try? How do you help your children be brave and adventurous?