She was shopping with her baby In a typically friendly midwestern town when an elderly man approached, gave a greeting and a word of congratulations. This seemingly simple act was quite surprising. It was an oddity. Previously it was the standard. Why has it become odd? Why has the standard changed? Covid-19.
Congratulations are typically spoken to parents of a newborn. This baby was already 7 months old, but has seldom been in public places. This was the first time a stranger had said congratulations to the mother. It was five or six months later than the usual timeframe for congratulations. Perhaps the gentleman was being a non-conformist, bucking against the non-kid-friendly culture. Perhaps he has not been in public much either.
Sadly, our current culture has become an unfriendly place for children. Some fear the children as being disease carriers. Some adults wearing masks themselves stare with angry eyes at children, toddlers and babies who aren’t wearing masks or their parents or both. Some businesses have banned children.
Many places families frequented prior to COVID were closed or been altered. Playgrounds have been off limits with caution tape wrapped around the slides and swings and play areas. Libraries closed. Park district classes and community events are canceled. Churches, too, have closed their nurseries and canceled children’s programing. Vacation Bible School was either virtual or nonexistent.
Many grandparents have stayed away during some or all of the Covid-19 threat. This separation is not healthy socially and emotionally for children, parents or grandparents. No matter what choices or decisions are made about how to manage this pandemic health crisis, there are people ready to criticize you. Talk with your parents and grandparents about their comfort level and allow them to set the pace for interaction with your children. Help them to allow their love to overrule their fears.
Parenting is a tough job from which there is no time off; or even sick leave. Plus children are incredibly selfish and childish. But, you can teach them to be patient and not demanding. You can teach them to give grace to a frightened culture. You can teach them to be loving and accepting to all people even the ones who are different. You can show them maturity with your example of consideration and thoughtfulness. You can model self-control and repay meanness with kindness. You can be an example of letting go of hurt and overlooking an offence. You can instruct them, just as Jesus did with his 12 imperfect, stubborn, prejudiced disciples, to love the Lord God and to love their neighbors as themselves.